“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”
When dealing with negative circumstances let your feelings happen and be aware of them – anger, worry, sadness, pain, anxiety – but don’t dwell them. Remember rule 11 – “Don’t look back at your mistakes too long.” encourages us to find the good in all adversity. This may be nearly impossible when nature strikes at its worst as in the floods in Pakistan.
Assigning blame is not useful, but examining suspected causes can lead to preventive action and the changes needed in the future. Using the best minds and techniques, such as a “fishbone analysis”, provides benefit even though not necessarily conclusive. You can change circumstances by understanding what parameters have led to them, then focussing on those parameters. Some general examples are:
- your eating choices lead to a healthy weight or obesity;
- the quality and amount of time spent with your family determines the love and respect shared;
- renewing your on-the-job skills helps to ensure a rewarding career;
- proper social etiquette keeps friends close; and
- dedication to self-improvement improves overall satisfaction
Waiting for circumstances to change encourages procrastination. Instead, follow rule 2 – “Be Proactive”. Decide to take control, which empowers and energizes you positively.
Circumstances force choices. Learn to make the right choices. The first choice is – are you going to do something about it or just sit there, sulk and be “victimized”? Your choices determine your experiences as the Law of Cause and Effect follows your wilful actions.
When you thoroughly analyze circumstances you are analyzing life. Life is all about circumstances. Learning how to deal with them effectively leads to critical personal development and growth.
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.
I don’t believe in circumstances.
The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.”
~George Bernard Shaw