“Manners are better caught than taught.”
Respect is defined as showing high, special, esteemed, particular, or proper regard or concern for. I’d like to be positive and focus on the behaviours that demonstrate respect, however there are many disrespectful behaviours that must be identified in order to eliminate them. Respect is synonymous with:
- being well-mannered: courteous, civil, polite, gracious;
- being considerate of others’ thoughts and feelings;
- avoiding the use of words, tones, or gestures (rolling eyes, smirks, shrugged shoulders) that are sarcastic, belittling, surly, cutting, insulting, and put-downs;
- avoiding cursing and profanity;
- refraining from being judgemental and critical; and
- being careful to not damage other people’s property.
Michele Borba in Don’t Give Me That Attitude, Jossey-Bass, San Francisco, 2004 includes a list of 85 important manners that children should acquire.
Fairness is marked by:
- applying the same standard to everyone, not being biased;
- being impartial: free from self-interest, prejudice, or favouritism;
- conforming with the established rules, not changing them midstream to gain an;
- losing gracefully;
- not complaining and blaming a supposedly unfair rule, law, or authority; and
- waiting for one’s turn: not interrupting, not butting in.