If you don‘t prepare adequately, it‘s unlikely that things will turn out well. Let‘s go deeper into what’s implied by “preparation” and “adequate” imply.
Once again, Merriam Webster to they rescue. They have several definition for “prepare“:
to make ready beforehand for some purpose, use, or activity,
to work out the details, or to plan in advance, and
to put in a proper state of mind.
They define “adequate“ to mean “sufficient for a specific quirement”.
As you think about the indicators of unproductive or bad worry, the words or phrases to keep in mind are: to get ready, purpose, use, activity, sufficient, specific requirement, and proper state of mind. The toxic behaviours include:
… what you are doing does not help, in fact it is harmful.
… you are not clear on how to solve the problem
… you don’t know what to do next, where to start, or how.
… you aren’t willing, motivated, or ready to take action.
… you want a quick solution, any solution as long as it doesn’t take too much time, effort, or planning.
… you worry about problems you cannot solve.
… you waste your time on problems that are out of your control and influence.
… even though you have taken reasonable precautions, you still think “what if” in a way that generates fear, for example “What if my daughter gets injured playing hockey?”
… the problems you think about are imaginary rather than something you’re actually facing at the moment, such as “What-if I get cancer?”
… if the problems you think about are imaginary, you have not determined how likely is it to happen, in other words, how realistic is your concern?
… you are preoccupied with “should” statements, such as (“I should exercise 5 times a week“).
… you assume responsibility for things that are outside your control, such as “Why did he decide to go to Europe. I should have warned him to save his money.”
… you worry about unanswerable questions, such as “Where is the world headed?”.
… you use your time poorly; when the day is over you wonder where the time went.
… you waste your time on unimportant items, such as little things around your home or watching too much TV.
… your expectations are not realistic.
… you refuse to learn more about your problems and potential solutions.
… you are reluctant to improve your skills.
… you expect the worst.
… you lack confidence; you are quick to say “I wouldn’t be able to handle it.”
… you give up quickly; you don’t want to invest the time and effort over the long haul.
… you let FUD (fear, uncertainty, doubt) take over.